Joe and I have been going on dates some Fridays of some weeks. His dad was the one that actually began and kinda forced us to go on a date, something we hadn't done in quite some time.
For us, once we had the boys, we focused on them and sort of forgot about going out and things like that. It was not a priority and part of it was also because Joe was too tired from really long days at work and I, was pretty drained after trying to keep up with two very energetic boys during the day.
We had gone to shows and concerts and we had fun. But when it came to go out to eat, it was kinda strange. For me anyway. We were pretty quite and it seemed like we didn't have much to talk about. However, we did talk about the boys a lot. And it's o.k. They are part of our lives now and there is so much to talk about them and for them that we can't resist. It is funny to think back in time when it was just the two of us and to remember the things we talked about. We talked about a lot of different things. Today, we do that a little more when we go on a date. It is nice to have that little time for ourselves. To feel as a couple. Husband and Wife.
Fast forward to today and besides going on dates or concerts we have found something in common that I see ourselves doing more in the future, Kairos weekends. It's a spiritual experience and I'm glad we can do it.
All couples with children need to find that time for each other. No matter what it is that makes you both happy. Whether it is sports, music, food, arts, retreats, movies, whatever it is. Make the effort. It's so worth it. Because remember, we were two at the beginning.